Posts Tagged ‘goal setting’

Resolution-ize your life for 2013

In Philippine Star Column on December 28, 2012 at 2:14 am
Have a VERY happy 2013!

Have a VERY happy 2013!

It seems we’ve survived, not only another Christmas season, but the much-talked-about “end of the world” scheduled for December 2012. So, since this can be looked upon (like any new year) as a fresh start, it’s almost time to whip out your wishlist for yourself once more. Wishlists are lovely to write, but when it involves taking action to achieve certain goals or desires, the task gets either too daunting, too tedious, or too impossible and the excuse list overtakes the actual wish list. Perhaps you can do things a little differently this year to ensure that you can give yourself a pat on a back for a job well done when 2014 rolls around. Here’s what you can do:

1. People making lists. Really map out how you would like to see yourself in each quarter of the year. If that still seems a little too “long” to plan ahead, then start with a month-to-month goal of what it is you would like to experience or see happen in your life (i.e., the most common is losing weight or getting back in shape after the all-out feasting during the Christmas season). So list something like: “January 2013, start weighing myself every day” which could become a regular part of your mornings and keep you aware of how much you should or shouldn’t eat that whole day.

2. Picture perfect. Visualization techniques work when they are attached to a certain emotion — normally elation and excitement. Take the time to really get a visionboard going. Again, write down what you want and when you want it achieved by, go through magazines with photos of how you want you and your life to look and put it somewhere you can always see it. If you share a space, then you can simply tack a mantra up on your bathroom mirror so you can see it every day like, “Today I will put aside X amount of my salary so I can travel to X by June 2013” for example. You can also put this as a Post-it note on your laptop, or agenda book, or even on your phone. Pictures truly help! When you see an image of what you want, your heart and head kick in raising your adrenaline and making you “feel” what it would be like to be at your desired life station.

3. Peer pressure. Want to hold true to your word? Tell a close friend or family member who isn’t afraid to speak the truth to you and someone you trust and respect. Why? Because he or she can gently and not-so-gently remind you when you are off-track and also be your cheerleader when you are heading slowly but surely toward your goal. I recently told a friend that I wanted to get into shape for a trip to Hawaii and, boy, he held me to my word. Aside from telling me to text him my weight every day (photo included of the scale) I also had to tell him what I was eating. Trust me, there is nothing like having someone on your back reminding you that you promised yourself to do something. I am grateful, a bit annoyed at times, but so far, so good.

4. Do cluedo. They say success leaves clues. This rings true even with short-term goals. If you wish to start your own business in 2013 then invest a little in expanding your network somewhat as well as your education. Have someone in mind that you’d like to emulate, or a business idea, and see if you can find a way to get more information on how that business came to be. If the owner or founder of the company is in the country then it takes less than six degrees of separation to find your way to him or her. If they are not available (or even no longer alive) then use the power of the Internet to research any book they may have written or interview they have given. See what is possible for you to follow, or even improve on, and with this kind of inspiration, coupled with visualizing, then you’ll have a pretty strong incentive to stick to what you want to do.

5. Belief work. First and foremost, before you even get down to sticking to any resolution, you have to honestly believe that you can do it. Life in general can get in the way, as can friends with well-intentioned jabs at this all-new, focused, seemingly-inflexible you. Keep your eye on the prize and know that yes, you can do anything you set your heart and mind to, especially if it’s for the good of a lot more other people. If it’s all about you, then you may not be enough at times to see it through, but if you keep the bigger picture in mind — like say, you get to save enough money, so much so you can bring someone you really love with you on your next trip — then you have a bigger chance of sticking to your goals and just smilingly drowning out all the other “noise” around you.

2013 can absolutely be your year, in every respect. Just take the first step and see you at journey’s end. Here’s to a happy, happier you!

(The Philippine Star) | Updated December 28, 2012 – 12:00am

A bucket list blog

In Living a Life Off-Center on January 23, 2011 at 3:16 am

I am grateful for when Sundays roll along because they are normally very sacred for me. Sacred in the sense that I do take time out to do things I would not have time to do during the week (and even Saturdays) and this is primarily to stay home and have some ME time. I even find that I write better, and feel more creative when I’ve had some time to sleep in, laze around in bed and even indulge in a deep muscle massage. Yes, Sundays were made for resting, even the energies around are much gentler as most parts of the world breathe a huge sigh of relief and are allowed to, well, breathe.

It’s also the time that I can get some reading done. There are still several books that have remained untouched on my dresser and shelves, their shiny, pristine jackets eyeing me longingly, but I have slowed down on my reading (books) and have transferred some of my focus onto reading blogs. Why? Because there is a lot more freedom of expression (not necessarily better writing) in the cyber library.

One such blogger who I’ve enjoyed following is actually a good friend and is one who can write. Big bonus. She’s also made an effort to make her blog pretty, I have already shared with her how much I envy her site and am making it my personal goal to pretty up mine soon. She just has to teach me!

Celine Novenario is a filipina who migrated to New York several years ago. Although she is considered stylish by many and in fact pursued further studies in fashion in Manhattan, she eventually went back to her “roots” which is, ironically enough IT. She first entered the blogger world with her witty and whimsical site about shopping and style (on a budget) called the chiconomist and continues to contribute to glossies and broadsheets in spite of her heavy techie workload.

Next up, was Novenario decided to come to terms with her growth, biologically that is. Although petite and youthful looking, the big 3-0 is looming over her, and it has fueled her to do things that she would have otherwise pulled off.

Novenario looks towards the big 3-0

Hence the 30 before 30 project was born. (

The 30 Before 30 Project

The blog itself is filled with wonderful stories and even includes  a list that has activities already being crossed out. (As stated in the title she plans to do 30 things she listed before she turns 30-as of this blog she has about 4 months left)

What I gained from this particular blog is that you don’t have to be reaching a particular “remarkable” age to do something you’ve always dreamed of. If you put in the time and the desire you can start living the life you choose.

For those who may be less adventurous, use Novenario’s musings as inspiration and you may find something interesting on her list that you would like to do yourself. I’ve certainly found several and have started 2011 making sure I will allot time out to do them.

Or, perhaps, you can start making  a bucket list of your own. Take time to sit down and find out what it is you’d like to do, for yourself and make sure you do it sooner than never.

Let’s get visual…visual, I wanna get visual…

In Living a Life Off-Center on July 29, 2010 at 5:14 pm

Been really tired lately, getting home late from healing seminars and even going to houses for space clearing. I thought, maybe I should do a project over the weekend that will involve a LOT of me time. Came across this article in Oprah Magazine’s June 2010 issue and thankfully there’s an online link to it.

They say, thoughts are real and whatever the mind sees, it believes it to be real or already happening in the present. I’d like to share this link with you, so perhaps you’ll join me in some “picturesque” goal setting over the weekend!

What The Heck’s A Vision Board—and How Can It Change Your Life?

By Martha Beck
O, The Oprah Magazine |  May 17, 2010

Illustration by David Pohl
Step One: Cut out pictures of things you love. Step Two: Paste them onto paper. Step Three: Realize your life’s ambition? Well…sort of. Martha Beck on the right way to use a vision board.